The week I became a lesbian

ELLIE CLARKE gets intimate with Leeds’ lesbian scene

It’s a golden rule that you have to mess around with your sexuality at university. A drunken kiss with a flat mate or spooning with one of the lads all counts but it has to be done.

So this week I decided to get over the prejudice and get under some girls.

I wanted to start talking to the LGBT society so they could help me out with great gay nights (the thought of going to the “Backdoor Disco” and “Homo at Mission” alone was making me feel very nervous.) Apparently though this was “A sensitive subject for our society be involved in press articles” I thought the society would want to bat for our team but considering they didn’t even know what The Tab was anyway I didn’t hold much hope.

Undeterred, I managed to find out that  Queen’s Court on Thursday night for “U Pop” is the gay equivalent of Fruity. I got dressed up and was bladdered by the time I was there, though I was told that this wasn’t a prerequisite…(Stupid Amber Cars). Jeni stepped up as my wingwoman for the night and I had the best time.

I had to fight the boys for the podium and Lady Gaga was played on the loop but in general everyone there just wanted to have a good time. Outside in the smoking area we were drunk enough to ask girls why so many live up to the stereotype of shaved heads, shirts and jeans – for many it’s because they don’t want to be approached by greasy guys or it’s a way of spotting other lesbians.

I seriously got into the role of it all, rubbing up against anyone who would have me – I quite fancied this girl actually and put on my moves asking for a kiss… until a much larger not so attractive grenade came up to me and told me they were engaged. Awkward.

The girl dressed in a full batman suit was getting my bedroom eyes but I ended up settling for this girl at the 2 o clock drop.

As a change of scene, rubbing up with transgenders and being out danced by the guys was so good, there were a lot of old preying men out though and as a student I could imagine that being quite uncomfortable.

Obviously I can’t imagine how difficult it is to be a lesbian but from what I’ve heard there aren’t enough nights outs in Leeds to meet other girls and the haircuts are a way of securing who they are.

Could I switch guys for girls? Yeah potentially, I woke up the next morning and I’d already got a couple of texts from some girls I was chirpsing and that never happens.

  • Laura

    Why is this even an article?

    • Disgusted person

      This article absolutely disgusts me. It's full of assumptions and stereotypes and suggests lesbianism is some sort of fashionable phase you can choose to go through just to "have fun" as part of the "uni experience". You should feel ashamed of yourself for writing this and taking advantage of the LGBT community for your sick game.

      • Anonymud

        Sick game? Lol

  • leeds lesbian

    You know this is pretty offensive to LGBT people…. we're not an experiment for you or a project.

    "but in general everyone there just wanted to have a good time" … um yes, thats the reason people go to clubs isn't it?! Why would a gay club be any different?

    LGBT people feel they cannot simply 'switch' our sexuality, it's not 'messing around'.. this is our identity, we love people of the same gender and its not a big joke to us.

    please don't reduce lesbians to our haircuts… LGBT life is in its self a subculture and we are real people behind the 'streotypes'

    Also the people pictured are drag queens not transvestites… transvestites are different. Maybe some background research into the 'T' in LGBT would have helped you make this distinction.

    • Alexis Starr

      No, the T is for transsexual/transgendered. I am a hard femme transdyke.

      • leeds lesbian

        aye I know, I was trying to make the point that transvestite is different because it's largely derogatory

        • leeds lesbian

          And I didn't mean to imply you were a drag queen – I was talking about the people in the 3rd photo

    • Anon

      Yawn

    • Sujanna89

      So right. These stereotypes doesn’t mean anything. I’m always told that I don’t look like a lesbian, like what exactly are lesbians supposed to look like anyway?! Just because I like my dresses, wear make up and have long hair doesn’t make me any less or a more of a lesbian. I find this very offensive and this is a very poorly written article, lacking research and isn’t representative of lesbians as a whole.

    • Moreknowledgeable

      I think the term you're searching for is 'transgender'.

    • Mei

      I’m producing YLAF this year, would you like to give a talk at the event? http://www.yorklesbianartsfestival2013.co.uk

  • Jo H. LUU LGBT

    Firstly I would like to share my disappointment that an article which seeks to 'get over prejudice' has merely reinforced stereotypes about the gay community and shown complete ignorance to the trans* community. In my view the author has managed to write an offensive and inaccurate article. Maybe if the content of the article had been gathered while she was not 'absolutely bladdered', a more interesting, thoughtful and inquisitive piece of journalism could have been achieved.

    Secondly, as an education for Ellie Clarke, here are some trans* basics:

    Transgender: An umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or gender expression differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.

    Transvestite: DEROGATORY see Cross-Dressing

    Cross-Dressing: To occasionally wear clothes traditionally associated with people of the other sex. Cross-dressers are usually comfortable with the sex they were assigned at birth and do not wish to change it.

    Drag Queen: A biological male, usually gay-identified, who wears female-designated or “feminine” clothing. Many drag queens may PERFORM in bars by singing, dancing or lip-synching, often for tips or for PAY.

    Hopefully this will help you to avoid inciting transphobia in any future article you may write.

    Personally, I believe it is extremely foolish to nonchalantly imply that homosexuality is a choice 'switch from guys to girls'. It is demeaning to those who have struggled with their personal identity, to those who have fought (and are currently fighting) for equal rights and to the quality of love between gay couples.

    I also feel it is appropriate to respond to your opening paragraph about the lack of interest shown by the LGBT society. LUU LGBT committee is above all else committed to providing for the welfare and social need of LGBT identified students, we provide confidential counselling services, socials, debates and workshops. Anyone who approaches the society with questions about the gay community will be helped with their needs. The email sent to us from Tab magazine neglected to inform us what Tab magazine was, its intentions as a paper, the intentions or contents the article to be written. The email was replied to with questions that were not answered by Tab magazine. Ellie Clarke was added to our facebook page and more of her questions were answered there. The society has a very strong politically neutral stand point which we work hard and carefully to maintain. Therefore we would have liked to have known the intentions of the article before it was written.

    Regards,

    Jo Hamlyn

    LUU LGBT Co-chair, (Not on behalf of the LUU LGBT)

    • woollymindedlib

      in fairness, while i endorse great swathes of your post, while you're lecturing the ignorant author on her lack of education, you should recognise that terms such as "biologically male" are cissexist and erase non-binary gender identities.

  • Jess

    "get over the prejudice" …..clearly you haven't.

  • Jo H. LUU LGBT

    Firstly I would like to share my disappointment that an article which seeks to 'get over prejudice' has merely reinforced stereotypes about the gay community and shown complete ignorance to the trans* community. In my view the author has managed to write an offensive and inaccurate article. Maybe if the content of the article had been gathered while she was not 'absolutely bladdered', a more interesting, thoughtful and inquisitive piece of journalism could have been achieved.

    Secondly, as an education for Ellie Clarke, here are some trans* basics:

    Transgender: An umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or gender expression differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.

    Transvestite: DEROGATORY see Cross-Dressing

    Cross-Dressing: To occasionally wear clothes traditionally associated with people of the other sex. Cross-dressers are usually comfortable with the sex they were assigned at birth and do not wish to change it.

    Drag Queen: A biological male, usually gay-identified, who wears female-designated or “feminine” clothing. Many drag queens may PERFORM in bars by singing, dancing or lip-synching, often for tips or for PAY.

    Hopefully this will help you to avoid inciting transphobia in any future article you may write.

    Personally, I believe it is extremely foolish to nonchalantly imply that homosexuality is a choice 'switch from guys to girls'. It is demeaning to those who have struggled with their personal identity, to those who have fought (and are currently fighting) for equal rights and to the quality of love between gay couples.

    I also feel it is appropriate to respond to your opening paragraph about the lack of interest shown by the LGBT society. LUU LGBT committee is above all else committed to providing for the welfare and social need of LGBT identified students, we provide confidential counselling services, socials, debates and workshops. Anyone who approaches the society with questions about the gay community will be helped with their needs. The email sent to us from Tab magazine neglected to inform us what Tab magazine was, its intentions as a paper, the intentions or contents the article to be written. The email was replied to with questions that were not answered by Tab magazine. Ellie Clarke was added to our facebook page and more of her questions were answered there. The society has a very strong politically neutral stand point which we work hard and carefully to maintain. Therefore we would have liked to have known the intentions of the article before it was written.

    Regards,

    Jo Hamlyn

    LUU LGBT Co-chair, (Not on behalf of the LUU LGBT)

  • Sally Parker

    This article is a complete and utter joke.
    Firstly, it doesn't deserve to be called an 'article' in the first place. It reminds me of a pointless diary entry that has no purpose and that no-one cares about.
    Secondly, the comment 'so I settled for this girl' has left me fuming. The girl you have 'settled for' happens to be one of my best mates. She is one of the most sweet, caring, kindest, funniest, beautifulist people I know. What gives you the right to pass judgement on her? You are so unbelievably arrogant and rude. Who do you actually think you are? Seriously?
    Thirdly, do you even have permission from the people for these photo's to be published? It will interesting to see what happens when I report this post.

    • Sorry to be pedantic

      I don't think you can say no-one cares about this. Seems like a lot of people are angry.

  • Sally Parker

    This article is a complete and utter joke.
    Firstly, it doesn't deserve to be called an 'article' in the first place. It reminds me of a pointless diary entry that has no purpose and that no-one cares about.
    Secondly, the comment 'so I settled for this girl' has left me fuming. The girl you have 'settled for' happens to be one of my best mates. She is one of the most sweet, caring, kindest, funniest, beautifulist people I know. What gives you the right to pass judgement on her? You are so unbelievably arrogant and rude. Who do you actually think you are? Seriously?
    Thirdly, do you even have permission from the people for these photo's to be published? It will interesting to see what happens when I report this post.

  • Sally Parker

    Finallly, the 'article' is so homophobic. You need to take a long hard look at your-self in a mirror. Your hideous personality really does shine through in this shitely written piece of garbage.
    'Could I switch guys for girls? Yeah potentially'. Don't make me laugh. I for one would touch you with a barge pole, but only to wack you straight in the face with it.

  • This shit

    Straight people always fucking up. Stay out of our clubs if you're gonna be an asshole, tour it like it's some exotic vacation spot, and then completely misrep "THE SCENE" and treat us like experiments. Thanks.

    also did you write this while you were drunk? I mean, really.

    This is why I mostly have LGBT friends. Goodbye.

  • Conor

    Can't say I'm sure the gay community will take lightly to being treated as some sort of lab rat for study by self righteous "journalists". There is a word for articles like this in the industry. I believe it's known as a 'take down piece'. Amazingly, taking down a whole community in the process. It's important that you know that articles such as this do not make you a journalist. They make you a fucking idiot.

    On the plus side, looks like you're a shoe in for a job at the daily mail. Bigot.

  • Conor

    Can't say I'm sure the gay community will take lightly to being treated as some sort of lab rat for study by self righteous "journalists". There is a word for articles like this in the industry. I believe it's known as a 'take down piece'. Amazingly, taking down a whole community in the process. It's important that you know that articles such as this do not make you a journalist. They make you a fucking idiot.

    On the plus side, looks like you're a shoe in for a job at the daily mail. Bigot.

  • Andy

    An absolutely shameful, vile piece of filth "journalism". Do us a favour and toddle off to The Star before you write any other utter crap before claiming to represent Leeds, yeah? Oh and do some grammar revision or something kthnx.

  • Hazel

    Fuck everything about this.

  • Angry Person

    You're really something else!

    Its not the LGBT society's job to take you on a night out for your little project and can you blame them for being cautious of journalists after all the rubbish and blatant lies they've had to deal with over the past few years?

    Going up to people and asking them why they fit a stereotype is incredibly offensive. I personally wear the clothes that I wear and I have my hair the way it is because I want to. Having short hair and wearing baggy clothes gets me attention from men that is almost consistently hostile and I most certainly don't try and look the way I look to be a beacon to other lesbians! I wouldn't dream of coming up to you and asking why you fit the stereotype of a straight girl, firstly, its rude and secondly, I don't give a damn what you wear and how you have your hair because it doesn't matter!

    Being a lesbian is not a role! You don't choose to be gay and the fact you've written an article about how you did for a night is disgusting. Especially where you say you might switch, that just completely ridicules and demeans everything every LGBT person has fought for and is fighting for just for us to be able to live a life free from discrimination.

    The term transvestite is offensive. You should have probably done a little research before you banged your head against your keyboard and produced this article.

    Admittedly, there is one good bit to this article: 'Obviously I can’t imagine how difficult it is to be a lesbian'. No you really can't and to be honest, I think you've probably just made life more difficult for lesbians. But unfortunately, you didn't end your sentence there and you continued on to be very offensive – I don't secure who I am with a hair cut and that is a ridiculous notion! Why are you obsessed with how lesbians have their hair?!

    I wonder how many of the people in the photos you've used here knew that they would be published online? Did you not have any ethical issues with posting them and possibly outing people? Did that even occur to you?

    If you really wanted to help reduce prejudice, I think, and correct me if I'm wrong, getting bladdered may not have been the right way to go about it. I understand that going to a gay bar might be intimidating but getting drunk probably didn't help your memory when you tried to write this.

    I sincerely hope you put some thought and research into your next article if you write one.

  • Geo Leonard

    This is massively offensive. It would be great if you could take this down. If you would like to talk about why this is offense feel free to e-mail me.

  • secret femme

    oh dear, you seem to be under some illusion that the LGBT scene and its community are here for you to play with because you're bored of the endless wall to wall shite you are stuck with on the straight scene. Your wording and approach to this article, as if it is an anthropological study of some strange breed is really very insulting. As for appearances; why do all you bloody straight girls insist on wearing shorts so short they're up your bum and heels impossible to walk in and other peoples hair sewn onto your head? Why are you all orange?

    Unfair of me? Yes, but that is exactly what you just did to us. I have short hair because I like it, just because I'm a lesbian doesn't mean that I should justify my hair length to some drunk breeder. People are the way they are; why do you care what they look like?

    Anyway your article is very stupid; we're not circus animals for you to come and oggle at, we're a community built on hundreds of years of rich culture, borne from oppression and discrimmination in the wider world. But you don't know the difference between a drag queen and a transvestite, so I wouldn't expect you to know anything about our history, politics or culture.

  • secret femme

    oh dear, you seem to be under some illusion that the LGBT scene and its community are here for you to play with because you're bored of the endless wall to wall shite you are stuck with on the straight scene. Your wording and approach to this article, as if it is an anthropological study of some strange breed is really very insulting. As for appearances, why do straight women all wear tiny shorts and sew other peoples hair onto their heads and wear huge heels that you cant walk in? why are you all orange?

    unfair? absolutely, but that is exactly what you just did to us with this article. why on earth would you think its our duty to justify our hair length to you because we're lesbians? bloody entitled breeder.

  • Alexis Starr

    BTW, the second photo is of me, the blonde transdyke! I’m famous!

  • Alexis Starr

    BTW, the second photo is of me, the blonde transdyke! I’m famous!

  • Chill Winston

    Not sure what all the fuss is about. Some people aren't lesbian and probs wonder what it's like. Don't get so defensive.

    • Wtf

      "Don't get so defensive" Classic, tired apologist behavior and you're not helping so really, why did you even contribute to this conversation? If a group of marginalized people are telling you something is offensive and hurtful, maybe listen and stop trying to invalidate it?

      Plus, like going to a gay club and treating it like a kewl little experiment with The Gays will tell you all you need to know! I guess it worked, too, because she finally uncovered the secret about lesbian haircuts…

    • Charley

      If you want to know what it's like to a lesbian askng a fucking lesbian not some bloody pissed straight tourist because they won't know. Women and men like her are the reason I'm becoming more of a queer sepratist every day.

  • Just no

    We are being defensive, BECAUSE THIS IS NOT WHAT IT IS LIKE TO BE A LESBIAN.

  • Sophie Partridge

    I don’t normally get offended very easily at all, but I honestly feel mildly sick after reading this article. That someone is capable of undertaking such an experiment, and then goes out of her way to insult the majority of people she encountered, is repulsive. I’m just glad I didn’t bump into you on Thursday night, because actually to be honest you’re not “god’s gift” yourself, and the thought of you “rubbing up” against me and invading my personal space would have A) done my head in at the time, because I go to clubs to have a good time and not get assaulted, like most normal people, and B) made me feel physically sick, particularly in retrospect with regards to this horrendously-written “article”. Just please stick to fruity and leave the rest of us to live our lives in peace.

  • Conor

    Can't say I'm sure the gay community will take lightly to being treated as some sort of lab rat for study by self righteous "journalists". There is a word for articles like this in the industry. I believe it's known as a 'take down piece'. Amazingly, taking down a whole community in the process. It's important that you know that articles such as this do not make you a journalist. They make you an idiot.

  • Chap's eye

    This is dire!

  • akula

    All of you need to chill the fuck out. And get a life. And then get over yourselves for being offended.

    Worth reading, made me laugh. NIce one.

  • just me?

    Perhaps, just perhaps, the person who wrote this is ignorant enough to not see the tone of her article. The condescending nature of her portrayal of the gay scene, coupled with her broad reaching inaccurate stereotypes lead me to believe that she probably thought it was a bit of a laugh and wasn't trying to be offensive.

    But that doesn't excuse the way the tone of the article seemingly belittles the gay community, almost as a little bit of cute fun on the side. Sometimes if I do my something romantic with a male partner I get abused, other times I get the incredibly patronising "OH HOW CUTE" rubbish I get from people. The abuse is worse, but the patronising stuff gets old just as fast.

    Perhaps in future the author of this article will consider whether she wants to write something describing the lifestyle of a minority she has a deep ignorance of.

  • Pissed Off!

    This possibly the most ridiculous thing I have ever read and I've read the Daily Mail a few times!

  • Pip

    This is an obnoxious and offensive article and I feel I have lost a considerable amount of brain cells from reading it.

  • Jack Shit

    Oh, isn't that adorable, you think you're a journalist. Sensational and offensive articles are not journalism. They're a skidmark on an otherwise useful square of toilet paper.

  • queerboy

    lol. clueless straight people.

  • Notts Uni Bi Guy

    Wow…this has got to be one of the most ill-conceived, poorly written, self absorbed and offensive pieces of shite I have ever read! How did this girl get into Uni? More importantly, how did this get to be published? Clearly the Editors of the Tab are just as moronic and clueless as the writer.

    The student should be vilified for being a twat, and the Tab should be shut down because it clearly prints worse dross than the Mirror.

  • Notts Uni Bi Guy

    Wow…this has got to be one of the most ill-conceived, poorly written, self absorbed and offensive pieces of shite I have ever read! How did this girl get into Uni? More importantly, how did this get to be published? Clearly the Editors of the Tab are just as moronic and clueless as the writer.

  • Alexis Starr

    I don't recall seeing any tranvestites that night, just a couple drag queens, and one MtF (me!). So she doesn't even know who's there.

  • Guy

    i think lesbians are wonderful, ive seen all their videos on the google machine

  • Chris

    What a crap article. Not only is it hugely offensive it is also terribly written. Even 'real life' rags aren't normally both!

  • GayJay

    Not only is this offensive, it's barely even an article

  • JOEY VIVO

    This writer doesn’t speak for or represent the whoke cis-gendered hetero community and derogatory comments on “stupid straight people” are unfair to the many who aren’t as naiive. This isa perfect example of terrible writing and I’m shocked a University paper would publish it under their name. Surely an editor would realise what a terrible idea it would be to publish?

    I can only think this is some trolling in a public sphere.

    To coin a friends phrase: Writing like this won’t make your career, but it will kill it before it’s begun.

  • Will Lloyd

    You're precisely an idiot.

  • Scrappy

    Well where to start…Clearly the comments on this article are better written and more informative than the actual 'article' itself. You fail at writing, give up now before you attempt 'the week I became African'.

  • Tony Blair

    You are rough

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  • Kell

    You call this an Article. Get some respect! COMPLETE FAIL!

  • Jess

    Wow, this is completely offensive. Identifying as LGBT is not an experiment you can conduct on a drunken night out like some sort of hobby. I hope you realise just how utterly prejudiced 'the haircuts are a way of securing who they are' sounds. The fact that this website chose to publish this is a testimony to either a) the death of proper journalism or b) how desperate it is for attention, just like the writer of this shameless article.

  • Tamping

    Who are you, and what gives you the right to be so rude and derogatory towards the LGBT community? I understand this is a tabloid, but really, tabloids are light reading, not offensive reading. This pile of offensive filth needs to be removed and frankly if I never read another shit stained article written by Miss Ellie Clarke, I will die a happy homosexual.

  • Moochy moochy

    You're an idiot. Offensive and a disgrace.

    As an LGBT person, I look for safety in gay clubs because my parents want to disown me and I can't be myself.

    You have no idea what that feels like, it's not a game. You're sick.

  • mysteryparadox

    I think my biggest concern about this article is that it is appallingly written by a Leeds Uni student.

  • Marina

    People like you are the reason why 'straight'-looking lesbians and bisexual women get treated with caution (or even suspicion) by LBT girls who worry are scared of being used or messed about. You're the reason why so many straight guys think lesbians are a valid target or a spectator sport. You're the reason why so many ignorant people think bisexuality is 'a phase' or somehow insincere.

    For me the problem with this piece isn't that it's offensive but that it's damaging. Stop fucking with other people's lives and distorting their perceptions please. You have no idea of the damage you're causing.

  • Callum

    Is it too much to ask for student journalists to at least steer clear of articles that are actually harmful. I know exactly what you think you're doing, Tab. I've encountered similar attempts to 'provoke debate' and 'challenge readers' before. It's a weird mindset that makes you think you're right no matter how much evidence is thrown against you to the contrary. What you fail to realise is that you're not being forward-thinking or challenging at all. The opinions in this piece are regressive, and wouldn't look out of place in working mens' clubs in the 70s, or the EDL. Being gay isn't a choice, people are free to dress how they want, and being gay REALLY isn't a choice.

    When you ask why lesbians have short hair, not only is that hideous stereotyping, but it's also a pointless question. You might as well ask why girls tend to have longer hair, why some clothes are more 'gendered' than others, or why everyone is so furious with you. Actually, you should really have a think about that last one.

    You're not challenging anyone and you know it. I see a Unilad-style backlash in your future.

  • Bee

    So you changed 'transvestites' to 'transgenders'. Still wrong.

    At least you had the decency to put your photo up so we all know who to avoid in future.

  • sam

    i don't understand…..just stop it please

  • Anon

    This is horrendous

  • Grace

    Your assumption that rubbing up against girls makes you a lesbian is horrific. This whole article is a degrading piece of trash, and I feel for the people who spent a night in a club with you thinking you were e genuine person.

  • Alex Rider

    Seen this article from a fellow SU executive whom is a member of the LGBT society from Anglia Ruskin University up in Cambridge, and thought I'd leave a comment:

    As much as I can see where the article writer is coming from, the way this has been presented is utterly terrible. As a gay person myself, these stereotypical impressions , the use of transphobic words and blatantly poor journalistic skills for a sensitive topic, this article in my opinion causes more harm than good for the LGBT community.

    Very rarely does a straight individual have the understanding to write an opinion piece of the community from a week, let alone clubbing nights where the real issues are not challenged – any true journalist would check the facts over a much longer period of time, try to understand the barriers presented by society along with how individuals cope, and understand the community from all aspects of life, rather than one narrow-minded area which no doubt is using unreliable evidence due to being "drunk enough".

    I'd also like to state how utterly disgraceful it is that fellow posters here are insulting the article writer – it is understandable that you are angry over the writers style, but being rude probably goes against your student charters – challenge an individual with fact in a logical manner, not through emotion.

    - Alex Rider, Anglia Ruskin University (Cambridge)
    [Disclaimer: The views reflect only myself, and are not representative of ARU's LGBT Society, or any other member of the campus]

  • Harry

    I’m going to ignore the quality of this article. But the comments left by some of the LGBT crowd have been nothing short of ridiculous, bordering on fascist. You say that because the author is not some sort of certified lesbian, that she is offending homosexuals worldwide in choosing to get with a girl, why shouldn’t she be able to get with who she wants, male or female, this doesn’t mean she is offending anyone, and people responding with personal digs at the author are far more offensive and harmful to LGBT than this article. Many seem to take a “keep out of our clubs” mentality, but I’m sure if a heterosexual only bar was set up, you’d be rightfully outraged. I’m a straight male and have been to several gay bars not only in Leeds, are you saying that just because I wasn’t born the same to you I’d be subjected to all this abuse and allegations of homophobia? After all, isn’t it what you’re fighting for that you be accepted for the way you were born? Maybe you should check your HETEROPHOBIA and stop playing the victim at every given opportunity, and look at how offensive and abusive you are being to Ellie Clarke. She is a student journalist (I’m guessing) of course the article isn’t going to be bang on perfect, but to say it’s harmful to a way of life is ludicrous, reactionary bullshit.

    • Alex Rider

      I'd like to make a point here as well – it is impossible for any LGBT society to disallow straight individuals in, as no doubt the university would claim that is being as hetrophobic. Infact, us folk over at ARU encourage more straight allies to support the society to make it as welcoming across all of the spectrum of sexuality, which is a major misconception of the general university public.

      However, irregardless, an individual should not make a newspaper article which is borderline transphobic, or resorting to the use of stereotypes. Let alone gather her sources of information whilst intoxicated by drink.
      It still does not excuse some posters here who have decided to attack the individual directly, rather than her 'journalism'.

      I'd invite Harry himself to actually take the time to ignore the people directly attacking the journalist, and focus more on the concerns of members of the LGBT community who are pointing out that using stereotypes, using only a weeks worth of research, and frankly using derogatory terminology towards LGBT identified persons. Then ask the question of whether that these posts are 'hetrophobic'

      - Alex Rider, Anglia Ruskin University (Cambridge)
      [Disclaimer: The views reflect only myself, and are not representative of ARU's LGBT Society, or any other member of the campus]

  • Katy Laing

    I quite enjoyed this. It's about time someone exploded the myth of homosexuality. Go you!

    • arewereallymyths?

      What on earth is the 'myth of homosexuality'? I thought homosexuality was real? #confused

  • Rosie

    Despite the deeply offensive content, Ellie Clarke can't write for shit.

  • RedHead

    I see a promising career at UniLad ahead for you…
    Love, a girl who spent a large part of her school career being called a dyke by girls like you just for having short hair.

  • IFHG

    I fucking hate gays.

  • hannah

    Oh dear, This is an awful piece of journalism, too much opinion and no research. Anyone could write up a night out where they went to a gay club why is this anything special? The photos are what you'd find on facebook and using ".." in your writing just isn't professional. and "the thought of going to the “Backdoor Disco” and “Homo at Mission” alone was making me feel very nervous" is just rude!

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  • ProfJ

    This is not so much journalism as it is the drunken scribblings of a deluded girl who seems to think that your sexuality is just something you can "switch". Get a grip, love.

  • Aysegul

    You're a bag of shit

  • Bisexual woman

    This made me feel sick. Stop being a judgmental tourist in a community that we need to feel safe, meet people and have fun without hassle – yes, LGBT people can have fun!
    It's like you've never met LGBT people before, we're humans FYI, with feelings and lives, not a joke or an experiment.

  • Tom

    This is my idea of a spoof article for The Tab. Instead it is an actual article. Erm… WTF

  • Anonymous

    Awww… it's someone who needs to resort to being offensive to get noticed.

  • Flo

    I had never heard of the Tab up until this article and to be honest I don't think I will be reading it again. No only is the writer clearly prejudice to what she doesn't understand but some editor has stupidly allowed this to be published. Think before you speak (or in this case write) about what you don't understand.

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  • Laura

    I see there's been a lot of negative comments to this, which seems a little cruel. I assume you're not being intentionally offensive (in fact it seems in good faith, thanks), unfortunately you've just got a hilariously naive and small-minded view. It's like some kind of clichéd documentary from the 70s – catch up, sexuality's moved on quite a bit since you last seem to have looked…

  • Wut

    This is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever read. At no point in your rambling, incoherent writings were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this thread is now dumber for reading it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

  • George

    Good article. Enjoyable read. Very funny in places.

    (From someone who would apparently meet the LGBT criteria but cannot stand the idea of having coffee with such a whining set of militant letter writers.)

  • Sharon BCU LGBT

    i have read many articles that are offensive to the lgbt community and this is one that tops its, could you be any more ignorant in this piece of text.

    Even the title "the week i became a lesbian". do you think its easy for an lgbt person to identify as part of the community. No person "decides" to be lgbt in a week its a long process of acceptance to themselves and for there loved ones.

    The way a person dresses and styles there hair is not there identity nor is there sexual orientation and most of all there sex and we as a community are not answerable to you or anyone else.

    Each individual is who they are, who they want to be. WHO ARE YOU TO EVER QUESTION IT!

    Sharon Gallagher
    Birmingham City University
    LGBT Committee

  • Stefano Imbriano

    Either this is satire, or this editorial team have a very sever form of autism.

  • Ali

    It's girls like you and articles like this why I don't get taken seriously as a lesbian, because I have long hair and am 'femme'. The gay community is not here for you to experiment with because you want to boost your ego.

    • Sure sure

      This article has nothing to do with you not being taken seriously. Only you can decide if you are a “serious” lesbian, and if others are questioning your sincerity in your sexual preference then they are clearly not the proper group of people for you to surround yourself with. Everyone is into dawning labels, so come out with a label for part-time open bicurious girls, like pl part time les, then u can confuse those who don’t take you seriously and get a laugh out of it at least.

  • Jaki

    So gays are elitist snobs,, who'd have though it =// why do you have have your whole world shaken by fairly inoffensive probe from some naive fresher. I'm bisexual, in liverpool our lgbt scene is much friendlier (and pretty slutty tbh :p but it's always fun and light-hearted) I've seen every stereotype of bitchy gays in the comments that really put me off getting involved back home. You're enforcing far worse stereotypes of yourself just by being dicks, and my gay friends wince at the thought of you. We all know a proper drama queen, and they don't tend to be popular for very long. You guys need to get over yourselves

  • jonathan

    you're an idiot.

  • http://societaladdress.blogspot.com Sabrina

    This article is absolutely pointless. Quite literally, because no point is actually made. Just some girl who went to a gay club and wanted to write about her experience. Might as well have done that in her diary.

    I can see why people find this offensive. Personally I just think it's dumb and testifies of a lack of writing skills, intellect, empathy and respect.

    Oh, right. The statement that it's a golden rule people in uni experiment with their sexuality. I know many people who would disagree on that.

  • http://societaladdress.blogspot.com Sabrina

    Oh right, I forgot to mention uneducated.

  • Alex

    You say "Obviously I can’t imagine how difficult it is to be a lesbian" then why have you writen an article about it, you don't know how hard it is for anyone to come out, and unless you are straight you have to come out because people assume you are going to grow up straight, i am a lesbian and i'm 18 and have been out for the past 4 years, and it was one of the hardest things i have had to do, so what now for the younger girls who don't know how to come out? As more people read your article the more lesbians that finally come out won't be taken seriously, because people do this sort of thing which make it seem like a "phase" when it isn't. If you wanted to write an article about lesbians then you should have done more research and actually asked lesbians to be involved in it, instead of pretending to be one for an article.

  • Sure sure

    This is a poorly written/thought out article, but the purpose/idea seems to be decent. I don’t take this as a ‘hit’ on the lgbt community so much as a very real representation of societies young females(and their lack of real life knowledge.) Young girls have been using lesbian experiences to get attention for years for various reasons, media uses gay/lesbian interaction for attention, and now some girl decided to write about it like its a normal thing-because it is. There is nothing new or strange about what this girl did, the only outrage should be that young girls think it is a required part of life as a female to be with other women sexually. I believe this is a real issue for young insecure girls/women, becoming confused because they can’t differentiate between what’s socially expected and socially acceptable, but nowhere are they being encouraged to just be themselves, supported and loved for who they are, whatever they look like. who your sexual partners or preferences include should not define who you are, because then you are limited to being a definition or stereotype, and everyone is much more than that. And remember, this article is written by someone who decided to get drunk and try out the lesbian scene and gather info under the influence from others under the influence….but at least it brought the opportunity to look deeper, I think if the writer had taken this approach it would have had potential to open up the issues regarding social pressures vs individuality amongst young females, but clearly she was too caught up in getting the attention I’ve described to even consider including a purposeful thought process. No one should feel pressure to conform to any sexuality, I’m glad she had fun, at least she won’t have regrets about her les experiences, just her article. ;)

  • Sure sure

    Oh ya, and I’m sorry to all the offended lgbt members that feel girls experimenting openly takes away from their legitamacy, thats life though. but if you take a second to think outside of the lgbt defensive line, this type of thinking and acting is a real thing, high numbers of ‘straight’ girls do go through this phase, it’s sad that this is an article available for them, but why hate a straight girl for trying out being a les? (I know the article is ignorant and contentless and a desperate attempt at attention) but lgbt’s should accept that girl on girl experiences arent just limited to “full fledged” lesbians, but straight girls are entitled to have phases without getting shoved off the fence back into the straight pen where they must ‘sit down n shut up about lesbian activity’ unless they are trying to come out. Isn’t that what the lgbt community is trying to rise up from? Being told what to do sexually?

    This is not at everyone, just those hating on her for experimenting…. :) <3

  • Charlie

    I think that this writer (I use that word in the loosest sense here) has no idea about gay culture. Duh! As if the article didn’t make that obvious. The whole thing makes me feel a bit depressed. It’s this ‘ unconscious’ homophobia. I find the comment ‘greasy men’ a bit heterophobic too. I’d like for this woman to spend some time with the gay community, as I believe that people can gain a new understanding and bigoted people can change. Also, I don’t think going clubbing to U Pop is exactly a proportionate representation of gay people or what it’s like to be a lesbian. Rant over. Off for some rubbing up and gonna throw some bedroom eyes to some short haired grenades because that’s what we do isn’t it?!

  • Tom Thornton

    JEEZ, I always think that people are too quick to find something 'offensive' especially if it involves them – CHILL OUT. it was an experimental article, exploring various components of todays society, just because it happened to be about the LGBT society doesnt mean that everyone should get hung up on it, dont you have bigger things in your life to be worried about? interesting to say the least.

  • Anonymous

    I agree, this article is pretty immature and pointless.

  • lesbian-with-hair

    thats the single stupidst thing iv ever read. SOME people live up to they steriotype because thats what they feel comfortable looking like.

  • Beej

    Urgh. Terrible premise, terrible writing style.

  • Richard

    This is really shit journolism

  • Nick

    Jesus even The Sun gets it more than this dappy cow.